Sharon Salzberg: Treat Your Anger with Lovingkindness

Dr. Mayim Bialik
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Chapters & Sections (156)

0:03 The Power of Love and Connection chapter 2
0:03 The Diminished Concept of Love and the Importance of Heart Space
1:06 Loving Kindness as a Force for Transformation and Connection
3:43 Welcoming Sharon Salsburg to the Breakdown chapter 2
3:43 Introduction and Personal Connection with Sharon's Work
4:49 Sharon's Childhood Trauma and Its Impact
7:30 Early Life and Family Dynamics chapter 4
7:30 Unconventional Family Structure and Feelings of Difference
8:02 Introduction to Asian Philosophy and the Concept of Suffering
9:06 The Discovery of Meditation and Its Impact
10:43 Childhood Trauma and Stigma Surrounding Parental Divorce
11:15 Childhood Struggles and Family Dynamics chapter 3
11:15 Stressful Living Situation with Single Mother
11:46 Reevaluating Perspective and Storytelling
12:19 Childhood Ambitions and Interests
12:50 AG1's Science-Driven Formulation and Quality chapter 1
12:50 Influence of Family Background on Spiritual Views
14:53 Introduction to AG1 and its Benefits chapter
16:25 Squarespace as a Platform for Building Your Brand chapter
17:57 Early Life and Activism chapter 5
17:57 Turning 70 and Reflecting on the Past
18:29 Intellectual Development at 16
19:32 Returning to Buffalo and Campus Politics
20:36 Parental Influence and the Anti-War Movement
21:06 Deciding to Go to India
21:38 The Author's Curiosity and Inspiration chapter 3
21:38 Inspiration from a Cultural Moment
22:41 The Discovery of India and Meditation
23:13 Planning the Journey to India
25:49 The Search for a Meditation Teacher chapter 4
25:49 Initial Disappointment with Potential Teachers
26:21 Inspiration from a Tibetan Restaurant Conversation
26:52 Meeting Dan Gman and Learning about the Baya Retreat
27:54 Personal Experience of Meditation and Sharing with Others
29:30 The Teacher's Guidance and the Power of Awareness chapter 4
29:30 Understanding the Buddha's Teachings and the Importance of Awareness
30:32 The Process of Introspection and Judgment
30:34 Combining Introspection with Loving Kindness and Compassion
32:47 The Difficulty of Changing Habits and the Need for Self-Loving Kindness
33:09 The Pattern of Unaware Anger and the Need to Identify Internal Experience chapter 4
33:09 Recognizing Unaware Anger and the Importance of Slowing Down
33:40 Moving Away from Judgment and Toward Loving Kindness
34:44 The Difficulty of Letting Go of Expectations in Meditation
35:46 Naming and Relating to the Inner Critical Voice
36:47 Dealing with Difficult Emotions and People chapter 3
36:47 The Importance of Not Annihilating Difficult Emotions and People
37:20 Inviting Difficult Emotions and People In, Rather Than Pushing Them Away
38:24 The Nature of the Mind and Visiting Forces
40:30 Introduction to Meditation and Personal Reflection chapter 5
40:30 Initial Notions about Meditation and Personal Reflection
41:01 Praying for Family and Observing Grandmother's Prayers
41:31 Realizing the Importance of Meditation for Personal Growth
42:03 Struggling with Resentment and Anger towards Others
43:05 Questioning the Effectiveness of Meditation in a Distracted World and Loving Enemies
44:07 The Concept of Justification and Redemption chapter 3
44:07 Redeeming Words and the Importance of Kindness
45:09 The Tricky Nature of Love and Compassion
46:12 Transformative Power of Love and Connection
47:45 The Importance of Compassion and Boundaries chapter 5
47:45 Finding Balance in Compassion and Self-Protection
48:18 The Frustration of Online Age Verification
48:48 Exploring the Concept of Compassion and Kindness
49:20 Returning Home After a Life-Changing Experience
50:56 Dealing with Criticism and Negativity
51:58 A Turning Point in Life chapter 6
51:58 Confronting Suffering and Finding Value
52:29 A New Perspective on Teaching
52:59 Evolution and Growth
53:29 Establishing a Retreat Center
54:00 Contrasting Approaches to Mindfulness
55:01 The Commercialization of Meditation
55:32 The Commodification of Mindfulness and its Roots in Eastern Philosophy chapter 4
55:32 The Importance of Personal Insight and Guidance in Mindfulness Practice
56:04 Criticisms of the Commodification of Mindfulness and its Roots in Eastern Philosophy
57:36 Accessibility and Productivity as Primary Values in Mindfulness Practice
58:38 The Limitations of External Guidance and the Importance of Internalized Mindfulness Practice
59:41 Concerns about Teacher Training and Practice chapter 1
59:42 A Critique of a Study on the Effects of Mindfulness Practice on Unconscious Bias
1:00:03 Exploring Emotions with a Game chapter 4
1:00:03 Processing Anger, Sadness, Joy, and Fear
1:01:47 Dealing with Anger as a Forest Fire
1:02:18 Capturing Joy's Energy and Slowing Down
1:02:50 Fear as a Compound Nature of Emotions
1:03:21 Fear of the Unknown vs. Fear of What We Know chapter 4
1:03:21 Overcoming Fear by Acknowledging the Unknown
1:03:51 Embracing Openness and Presence in Uncertainty
1:04:23 The Role of Love and Companionship in Life
1:05:59 Countercultural Approach to Relationships and Community
1:07:00 Early Days at Naropa Institute chapter 6
1:07:00 Meeting Ramdas and Joseph at the First Summer of Naropa Institute
1:07:31 Moving into Joseph's Apartment and the Meditation Group
1:08:03 Teaching at Naropa and Invitations to Stay On
1:08:34 Fear of Public Speaking and the First Retreat in the US
1:09:37 Shifts in Perspective and the Evolution of the Meditation Group
1:10:09 Research and Conversations with Sam Harris
1:10:40 The Medicalization of Meditation chapter 4
1:10:40 Concerns about Overly Medicalized Meditation
1:11:42 The Dangers of Wrong Expectations
1:12:13 The Importance of Real-Life Application
1:13:13 Motivation and Accessibility
1:14:16 Personal Experience with Mindfulness and Stress Relief chapter 3
1:14:16 Introduction to Mindfulness and Stress Relief
1:15:18 Practicing Mindfulness in Daily Life
1:15:49 Adding Loving Kindness Practice to Daily Routine
1:17:51 The Importance of Consistency in Meditation chapter 6
1:17:51 The Problem with Setting Unrealistic Expectations
1:18:23 Building a Meditation Practice and Its Cumulative Effects
1:18:54 The Muscle of Meditation and the Importance of Incremental Shifts
1:19:58 The Mind-Body Connection and the Impact of Unaddressed Stress
1:20:29 The Emergence of New Perspectives and the Importance of Addressing Stress
1:21:00 Practical Applications of Meditation and the Need to Address Stress
1:21:31 Meditation as Skills Training and Mindfulness chapter 3
1:21:31 Developing Curiosity and Interest through Mindfulness
1:22:01 Interconnectedness and Compassion
1:23:37 Reflections on Legacy and Family
1:25:12 Personal Reflections and Legacy chapter 4
1:25:12 Becoming a Godmother and Unconventional Relationships
1:25:45 Legacy and Impact on Others
1:26:18 Fear of Repeating Oneself and Staying Relevant
1:27:51 Gratitude and Appreciation for Guided Meditation
1:28:54 Gratitude and Reflection chapter 2
1:28:54 Personal Reflection and Gratitude
1:29:26 Barry Mass and the Significance of Certain Individuals
1:29:57 Exploring Cultural and Historical Contexts chapter 4
1:29:57 ROM dos and its Impact on Western Culture
1:30:27 The Beatles and George Harrison's Exploration of Eastern Philosophy
1:31:28 The Endogenous System and Transcendental Experience
1:32:02 Processing Emotions and the Roller Coaster of Feelings
1:33:03 Understanding and Accepting Emotions chapter 3
1:33:03 The Normalcy of Sadness and Fear
1:34:07 Fear as a Construct for Building Strategies
1:35:11 The Dangers of Unchecked Fear and the Importance of Meditation
1:36:46 Personal Experiences and Meditation chapter 4
1:36:46 Challenging Personal Assumptions and Finding Alternative Paths
1:37:18 Meditation in Everyday Life
1:37:49 Curiosity and Interest in Meditation Teacher's Personal Life
1:39:21 Asking Silly Questions and Breaking Patterns in Mental Health
1:39:52 Patterns of Poor Treatment and Fear chapter 3
1:39:52 Tolerance of Poor Treatment and Fear of Rejection
1:40:54 Fear of Confronting Painful Truths and Avoidance of Therapy
1:41:57 Holding Grudges and Resentment as a Barrier to Happiness
1:42:59 Impact of Global Pandemic on Mental Health chapter 4
1:42:59 New Mental Health Challenges and Lockdown Confinement
1:43:33 Loss of Healthy Coping Mechanisms and Relationship Strains
1:44:04 Forced Confrontation of Past Trauma and Blurred Work-Life Boundaries
1:45:37 The Importance of Humor and Regulation in Mental Well-being
1:46:08 The Importance of Sense of Humor and Laughter chapter 3
1:46:08 Defining Sense of Humor and Its Role in Well-being
1:46:39 Therapist's Sense of Humor and Dark Spaces
1:47:42 Reacting vs. Responding to Emotions and Distress Tolerance
1:49:48 Comfort Zone and Self-Awareness chapter 1
1:49:48 Recognizing Uncomfortable Situations and Staying Away
1:50:19 Personal Bucket List and Nature's Awe chapter 3
1:50:19 Desire to See the Northern Lights and Overcoming Comfort Zone
1:50:51 Nature's Awe and Humbling Experience
1:51:53 Therapy, Comfort Zone, and Distress Tolerance

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