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00:00
Host Welcome and Show Format Explanation
00:31
Discussion of Best Of List Creation Process
01:05
Personal Story About Being Fired Multiple Times
01:36
Audition for Peter Bogdanovich’s TV Movie
02:07
Rehearsal Setup and Classroom Metaphor
02:38
Actor’s Nervousness During First Performance
03:09
Director’s Feedback and Actor’s Emotional Reaction
03:39
Actor Approaches Director for Clarification
04:12
Director’s Abrupt Response and Actor’s Confusion
04:46
Director’s Decision to Keep Actor on Set
05:19
Interaction with an Extra and Discussion of Acting Aspirations
05:51
Director’s Reflection on Rehearsal Process
06:22
Actor’s Emotional State After Rehearsals
06:54
Agent’s Message About Being Fired
07:25
Encounter with Peter Bogdanovich After New York Performance
07:56
Discussion of Moving to Los Angeles and Manager’s Influence
08:59
Initial Greeting at the Set
09:29
Recollection of a Traumatic Scene
10:01
Meeting Oliver Stone in the Lobby
10:33
Discussion of Career Progress and Auditions
11:06
Filming World Trade Center Scenes in New Mexico
11:38
On‑Set Living Conditions and Local Culture
12:09
Chili’s Party and Dietary Humor
12:41
Conflict Over Chili’s Incident
13:14
Escalation of the Chili’s Argument
13:45
Reflection on Hollywood Life and Conflict Resolution
14:16
Recounting a Heated Exchange at Chili’s
14:46
Personal Grief and Coping with Loss
15:16
Exploring Addiction and Emotional Resilience
15:49
Understanding Grief Through Shared Stories
16:20
Navigating Personal Relationships and Loss
16:50
Using Narrative Techniques for Healing
17:22
Expressing Internal Conflict About Public Sharing
17:53
Anticipating Listener Skepticism and Validation Needs
18:24
Exploring the Shadow Voice of Self-Doubt
18:57
Observing Gendered Reactions to Abuse Narratives
19:28
Discussing Men’s Reluctance to Disclose Abuse
19:59
Addressing Societal Expectations of Male Power and Shame
20:30
Navigating Sexual Identity Amidst Trauma
21:01
Confronting Public Misunderstanding of Abuse Claims
21:32
Debating the Term Gaslighting Versus Other Descriptors
22:02
Examining the Impact of Long-Term Sobriety on Relationship Dynamics
22:33
Describing Survival Mode and Deception in Intimate Relationships
23:34
Reflecting on the Role of Addiction Language in Non-Physical Contexts
24:05
Speculating About Hypothetical Lie Detector Outcomes
24:36
Arctic Survival Show Example
25:07
Brain’s Role in Justifying Actions
26:10
Shame Brain and Self-Defense Mechanisms
27:15
Apology to a Loved One After Loss
28:18
Father-Daughter Relationship and Closure
29:19
Emotional Response to a Final Meeting with a Parent
32:56
Hookup vs. Dating Debate
33:28
Sexuality and Shame Perceptions
33:58
Men’s Silence on Hookups
34:30
Shame and Secret-Keeping Dynamics
35:01
Consent and Fear of Misinterpretation
35:33
Workplace Power Dynamics in Hookups
36:07
Long Work Hours and Relationship Formation
36:42
Impact of Breakups on Careers
37:12
Compartmentalizing Personal and Professional Lives
37:43
Monitoring Power Dynamics at Work
38:16
Status Attraction and Predatory Concerns
38:47
Paranoia Around Fame in Hookups
39:19
Hookup Stories and Public Sharing
39:49
Challenges of Chemistry in Hookups
40:21
Fame’s Influence on Hookup Narratives
40:52
Managing Audience Expectations as a Public Figure
41:22
Challenges of Authenticity in Media Appearances
42:30
Therapy Insights on Personal Trauma
42:57
Revisiting Past Abuse and Its Impact
43:28
Loyalty and Support in Personal Relationships
46:06
Therapeutic Breakthroughs on Boundaries
48:12
Practical Examples of Boundary Setting
49:46
Assigning Sequential vs Associative Roles in Partnerships
50:17
Discussion of Partnership Structure and Consistency
50:47
Conceptualizing a Nonlinear Film Narrative
51:19
Personal Connection to Film Through Family History
51:59
Experiencing a Quantum Moment at a Classic Theater
52:00
Early Exposure to Pornography and Sexual Curiosity
53:22
Family Conversations About Sex and Guilt
55:58
Self-Help Reading During Isolation
56:28
Sobriety Challenges and Relationship Dynamics
57:28
Navigating Shame Spirals in Early Recovery
58:00
Extreme Focus and Shame as Motivation
58:30
Overachievement vs. Underachievement Perspective
59:00
Book Spoiler and Personal Revelation
59:31
Sperm Donor Disclosure and Egg Freezing Context
1:00:05
Parental Decision-Making Process
1:00:35
Screening and Ethnicity Preferences
1:01:06
Family Secret Impact on Identity
1:01:37
Therapeutic Advice from Parents
1:02:09
Healing Through Family Therapy
1:02:40
Integrating Self-Identity and Acceptance
1:03:13
Parental Denial and Biological Reality
1:03:44
Motivation Behind Parental Choices
1:04:17
Risk and Innovation in Family Decisions
1:04:49
Timing of Truth Disclosure
1:05:21
Complexity of Acceptance and Trust
1:05:51
Trusting Intuition After Forced Confession
1:06:27
Parenthood as the Warmest Reception
1:06:59
Director’s Encouragement and Overcoming Impostor Feelings
1:07:29
Mother’s Bag Lady Sketch and Early Performance
1:08:32
Strip Club Incident and Protective Boundaries
1:09:34
Minka’s Sleepover at the Club and Return to School
1:10:06
High School Struggles and Seeking Acceptance
1:10:38
Hypervigilance from Early Observations of Addiction
1:11:10
Navigating Adult Relationships and Trust Issues
1:12:43
Friendship Dynamics with Paul and Racing Community
1:13:46
Initial Exposure to Comedy Icon
1:14:16
Imagining Interviews in Mirror
1:14:48
Dreaming of Being on the Show
1:15:08
Moment of Recognition
1:15:20
Thanking the Host
1:15:49
Meaningful Connection to Childhood
1:16:02
Closing Remarks