About this episodeElla Mai discusses her evolution from a South London upbringing to becoming a Grammy-winning R&B artist, highl…AI summary
Ella Mai discusses her evolution from a South London upbringing to becoming a Grammy-winning R&B artist, highlighting the profound impact of motherhood on her perspective and creative process. She emphasizes the importance of authenticity, maintaining a strong support system, and prioritizing quality over quantity in her music career, while also debunking common astrological stereotypes associated with her Scorpio identity.
Key takeaways 6
Motherhood fundamentally shifted Ella Mai's patience and priorities, removing the time for unnecessary drama and forcing her to focus on what truly matters.
Ella Mai's songwriting journey began in school where she realized she could turn personal life experiences into songs, moving away from the idea that songwriting required being a 'crazy poet.'
Her collaboration with producer DJ Mustard is built on mutual respect and creative freedom; he gives her control, allowing her to work with other producers, which helped build her confidence and unique sound.
Ella Mai intentionally takes long breaks between albums (approx. 4 years) to live life and gather authentic experiences, preferring quality over the oversaturation common in the industry.
She challenges the stereotype that Scorpios are purely jealous, reframing it as being 'territorial' and 'cool, calm, and collected,' while noting that Cancer rising adds emotional depth.
The album 'Do You Still Love Me?' was recorded during pregnancy/postpartum with a focus on fun and vulnerability, resulting in a more personal project without features to keep the narrative intimate.
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“Always show up as yourself. As cliche as it is, no one fills a space the way you do. We are all built different for a reason.”
▶ 4:46Ella Mai shares her personal mantra, explaining that clichés exist because they are true, and emphasizes individuality in an industry often focused on trends.
“I feel like when women hit their 30s, it's just like there's just a different vibe. There's a different energy that is like hard to explain, but anybody any woman that's over 30 knows exactly what I'm talking about.”
▶ 5:47Reflecting on her current era of life, Ella Mai describes the shift in mindset and energy that comes with age and motherhood.
“I don't want to perform love for you... I think it's important to keep some stuff to yourself. I think that's very that's an important balance.”
▶ 49:12Ella Mai explains her decision to be vulnerable in her music while keeping her private life protected, rejecting the pressure to publicly prove her relationships.
“I think we are more so territorial than jealous. And those there's a thin line, but I do think those are two different things. I think it gets misconstrued for jealousy.”
▶ 11:03Debunking Scorpio stereotypes, Ella Mai clarifies that her sign's intensity is about protecting what is hers rather than irrational jealousy.
Chapters & Sections (32)▼
0:00Growing Up in South Londonchapter2
1:46The Importance of Good Communication in Relationships
3:18Celebrity Encounters and Inspirational Life Mantras
5:16Embracing Motherhood and a New Era of Lifechapter1
7:06Parenting a Newborn and Toddler
9:56Debunking Scorpio Stereotypes and Misconceptionschapter1
12:12Growing Up in a Musical Family
14:16The Importance of Family Time and Shared Experienceschapter1
17:26Early Music Career and Girl Group Experience
20:07Early Days of Music Career and Viralitychapter1
21:37Breaking into the Music Industry as an Independent Artist
24:30Maintaining Creative Independence in Relationshipschapter1
27:29Finding Your Unique Identity Online
29:08Dealing with Pressure and One Hit Wonder Stigmachapter1
31:12Navigating Success and Creative Pressure
34:09Importance of Support Systems in Successchapter2
35:55Revisiting Intimate Performance Roots
38:36The Importance of Quality Over Quantity in Music
40:19Creating a Cohesive Album Experiencechapter4
42:53Vulnerability in Creative Expression
44:16Opening Up About Personal Life and Relationships
46:12Embracing Spontaneity and Vulnerability in Relationships
48:01Importance of Maintaining Personal Boundaries
49:42The Significance of Love Songs in Modern Musicchapter2
51:28Navigating Motherhood and Self-Discovery
52:59Motherhood and Parenting Challenges
55:02The Challenges of Breastfeeding and Body Recoverychapter1
57:02Challenges of Postpartum Fitness and Routine
59:36Astrology and Personality Traitschapter3
1:01:31Astrology Signs and Their Traits Discussed
1:03:13Reading Room Dynamics and Zodiac Traits
1:04:31Astrology and Personality Traits in the Apocalypse
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