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00:00
Host Greeting and Guest Introduction
01:04
Discussion of Dr. John Gottman's Marriage Research
02:08
Explanation of Predictive Divorce Metrics
03:14
Personal History: Dominican Roots and Family Life
04:15
Migration to Brooklyn and Early Challenges
05:48
Educational Journey from Math to Psychology
06:50
Graduate Research on Learning Models and Tipping Points
08:53
Identifying Diagnostic Gaps in Couple Studies
09:24
Physiological Monitoring Techniques Used
09:54
Couple Interview Protocols and Conflict Topics
10:24
Emotion Coding of Facial Expressions and Voice Tone
11:26
Predictive Power of Physiological Data on Divorce
12:27
Defining Contempt versus Criticism in Relationship Talk
13:30
The Role of Permanence in Language and Conflict
14:33
Situational Versus Permanent Labels in Partner Interaction
15:06
Applying the Parental Agenda Concept to Child Behavior
16:39
Impact of Parental Labels on Self-Identity
17:10
Parental Projection and the Desire for Connection
17:41
Balancing Expectations with Child Autonomy
18:12
Early Academic Path and PhD Completion
18:43
Postdoctoral Training and First Faculty Position
19:14
Collaborations and Lab Development at Washington
19:45
Longitudinal Study of Couples During Pregnancy
20:16
Relationship Happiness Decline After Baby Arrival
20:46
Predicting Infant Vagal Tone from Parental Conflict
21:17
Parental Communication and Infant Physiological Outcomes
22:20
Mechanisms Linking Maternal Stress to Infant Development
23:23
Practical Implications for Prenatal Care and Parenting
23:53
Designing a Workshop to Restore Relationship Happiness
24:23
Key Ingredients for Sustaining Parental Involvement and Connection
24:54
Intimacy and Conflict Reduction in Parenting
25:24
Balancing Work and Childcare Responsibilities
25:55
Equal Say in Parenting Decisions
26:56
Sober Living and the Myth of Children as a Cure
27:27
Selfish Impulses and Service to Family
27:58
Historical Male Roles in Parenting
28:30
Anthropological View on Non-Monogamy and Fatherhood
29:01
Evolution of Parenting Roles with Agriculture
30:04
Workshop Impact on Dad Involvement
31:07
Cultural Barriers to Male Participation in Childcare
32:09
Observational Research on Couple Dynamics
33:43
Facial Coding System and Emotional Production
34:16
Experimenting with Smiling to Influence Mood
34:16
Short Conversation Predicts Divorce Likelihood
35:16
Three‑Minute Interaction and Relationship Forecasting
35:47
Softening Startup Exercise with Audience
36:18
Transforming Harsh Startups into Gentle Statements
37:20
Identifying and Communicating Positive Needs
38:55
Intentionality vs. Impact in Conflict
39:56
Challenges of Expressing Needs in Relationships
41:30
Prediction Accuracy in Relationship Studies
42:03
Positive/Negative Ratio Expectations in Relationships
42:33
Dopamine Reward Mechanism for Positive Interactions
43:03
Negative Chemical Strength and Its Impact on Relationships
43:34
Agreeability Dimension in Relationship Compatibility
44:05
Conflict Avoiders and Communication Patterns
45:07
Comparison Strategies in Conflict
46:09
Long-Term Relationship Evolution and Communication
47:11
Carol Rusow’s Insights on Negative Comparisons in Conflict
48:45
Partner Strengths and Clinical Insight in Long-Term Relationships
49:48
Description of Trauma Populations
50:20
Introduction to Fragile Families Project
51:54
Critique of Existing Research on Couples in Poverty
52:55
Discussion of Funding and Ethical Implications
53:26
Contempt as a Four Horseman
54:27
Defensiveness: Counterattack Form
55:31
Victimhood and Self-Pity in Defensive Behavior
56:33
Practical Techniques for Reducing Defensiveness
58:05
Using Writing to Observe Partner’s Reactions
58:36
Building Trust Through Written Feedback
59:08
Describing Stonewalling Behaviors in Couples
1:00:10
Male Responses to Emotional Requests
1:01:14
Cultural Differences in Emotional Expression
1:02:49
Breathing and Mindfulness to Counter Stonewalling
1:03:52
Three Conflict Blueprints Overview
1:04:55
Using Triggers to Prevent Defensive Reactions
1:05:58
Early Couples Counseling as Prevention
1:06:29
Practical Strategies for Managing Quiet Mood States
1:06:59
Therapist Observations and Simple Interventions
1:07:30
Identifying and Discussing Emotional Triggers
1:08:01
Debating the Myth of Effortless Emotion Management
1:08:31
Perfectionism in Social Perception and Counseling Hesitancy
1:09:04
Shared Experience of Conflict in Relationships
1:09:35
Defensive Communication and Active Listening Techniques
1:10:06
Modeling Mutual Understanding in Conflict Resolution
1:11:10
Symmetrical Listening and Validation Process
1:12:11
Sexual Intimacy as a Foundation for Relationship Health
1:13:11
Daily Acts of Affection and Their Impact on Intimacy
1:14:14
Weekly Romantic Dates and Getaways
1:14:45
Public Displays of Affection
1:15:17
Sex as Male Validation
1:15:47
Initiating Sex to Resolve Power Struggles
1:16:19
Gender Differences in Sexual Motivation
1:16:51
Response to “No” and Its Impact on Frequency
1:17:24
Women’s Higher Sexual Requirements
1:18:28
Safety Concerns and Fear Conditioning
1:20:01
Statistical Evidence of Physical Threats to Women
1:20:32
Household Chores and Sexual Frequency
1:21:03
Vulnerability vs. Neediness in Relationships
1:22:05
Neural Correlates of Long-Term Love
1:23:05
Normal Bar Book Overview
1:23:37
Science of Kissing Study
1:24:07
New Book Introduction and Co‑Authors
1:24:40
Couple Study on Intimacy Habits
1:25:11
Conversation Frequency and Content
1:25:41
Designing Curiosity‑Fired Dates
1:26:12
Trust and Commitment Date Example
1:27:13
Money as a Meaningful Topic
1:28:48
Adventure, Play, and Fun Date Focus
1:29:51
Sex vs. Play in Couple Therapy
1:31:23
Mark Cummings' Findings on Physical Reconciliation
1:31:55
Measuring Marital Happiness and Stress Hormones
1:32:27
Questioning Naturalness of Relationships
1:33:00
Origins of Social Epidemiology Research
1:33:32
Berkeley Study on Longevity and Relationship Quality
1:34:02
Replication of Relationship-Health Findings
1:34:34
Open Relationships in Gay Male Couples
1:35:06
Personal Experience with a Long-Term Open Relationship
1:36:39
Polyamory and Its Impact on Sexual Life
1:37:10
Hormonal Dynamics in Male and Female Sexuality
1:38:12
Monogamy, Marriage Rates, and Economic Independence
1:39:45
Discussion of Marriage Motivations
1:40:15
Questions About Facial Expressions and Contempt
1:40:47
Exploration of Eye Roll as a Habitual Expression
1:41:18
Detailed Analysis of Facial Muscle Movements
1:41:50
Linking Eye Roll to Underlying Emotions
1:42:22
Jewish Stereotype About Men as Good Husbands
1:43:24
Historical Context of Women’s Strength in Jewish Culture
1:44:25
Contrast Between Orthodox and Mainstream Jewish Views on Women
1:45:26
Personal Story of Motherhood and Family Legacy
1:45:57
Photographic Memory of a Mother’s Influence
1:46:29
Closing Reflections and Future Aspirations
1:48:33
Defining the Art of Impressions
1:49:04
Self-Identification as an Impressionist
1:49:36
The Role of Observation in Performance
1:50:40
Maintaining Audience Engagement
1:51:11
Balancing Familiarity and Surprise
1:52:13
Using Impressions to Build Tension
1:53:17
Psychological Impact of Scary Narratives
1:54:53
Gender Differences in Horror Consumption
1:55:54
Lifetime Television and Female Fear Themes
1:57:59
John G. and Blink 182 Mix-Up
2:00:03
Discussion of Tattoos and Personal Cover-Ups
2:01:07
Revealing a Large Tribal Tattoo Story
2:01:38
Overview of the Rosenhan Experiment
2:03:10
Details on Hospital Admissions and Diagnosis Outcomes
2:04:49
Impact of the Experiment on DSM Development
2:05:20
Humorous Anxiety Animal Scenario
2:06:54
Chimp Ownership Risks
2:07:24
Bubbles the Chimp and Public Perception
2:07:55
Legal Issues Surrounding Mike Jackson
2:08:25
Justice vs. Compassion Debate
2:09:26
Rehabilitation and Recidivism Discussion
2:10:28
Creative Inspiration from Film
2:12:33
Plagiarism Concerns and Intellectual Property
2:13:36
Film Analysis and Narrative Techniques
2:15:42
Discussion of Sadness and Family Abuse
2:16:14
Self‑Aware Commentary on Past Conversations
2:16:44
Metaphorical Title for Autobiography
2:17:15
Agreeability as a Key to Relationship Success
2:18:07
Desire for Active Partnership vs. Acquiescence
2:19:51
Magic Show Experience and Emotional Response
2:21:03
Motorcycle Race Analogy for Compatibility
2:22:15
Friendship vs. Marriage Paradigm in Activity Choices
2:23:33
Statistical Overview of Childhood Abuse and Sexual Assault
2:24:36
Discussion of Drug Use Statistics
2:25:08
Inaugural Shooting Event in San Antonio
2:25:39
First Shot and Audience Interaction
2:26:10
Baseball Injury Safety Discussion
2:26:41
Audience Embarrassment and Reaction
2:27:13
Touring Historic Theaters in San Antonio
2:27:44
Encouraging Visits to Restored Theaters
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